10 Things To Think About When You’re Not Okay

I know we’ve all been there.  Call it what you want.  Poopy pants.  Sad.  Depressed.  Listless.  Uninspired.  Angry.  Hurt.  Rejected.  Cheated.  Upset.  Alone.  Sorry.  Resentful.  Chances are you are reading this because you feel like this right now.

It sucks! It’s also hard to snap out of it when you feel like that. Especially if you feel like you may have no one to talk to.  Nobody that you feel like will understand you and not judge you.

I have been there because I struggle with anxiety and PTSD quite frequently.  Lately, I have discovered I am not alone.

I know that sounds like nothing at first. But it’s more than something. It’s the difference between feeling completely alone and feeling hope.

I want my website to be a safe place for you to come to when you feel sad.  I’d rather you were in high spirits when visiting here with me but I am not here to judge you.  I just want to nudge you into the right direction.  I want to listen.  I want you to send me messages and leave me comments about how you’re feeling if you don’t have anyone that will listen.  I will read and reply to every single one I promise.   I enjoy connecting with those of you that open up to me. It’s a honor to hear your story.  Somewhere along the way I think some of you forget that your story can be rewritten.  Maybe it seems like too much work or you don’t know where to start.

Here is a short list of some things you can begin with when you feel this way. I hope it helps you find a bit of peace and relief.

  1. When was the last time you ate? It’s important to feel nourished.  Being hungry can lead to a poor attitude and outlook.  It can also make you feel sick to your stomach.
  2. Are you tired? Being rested is a huge relief. Problem solving becomes second nature when you feel you can handle anything.  If you can, take a nap. If you cannot try make sure you get into bed at a decent time tonight for a restful sleep.
  3. Are you hydrated? Perhaps you have a headache. Your body probably needs some water. If possible go to a body of water and just sit still there. It has the most healing effects.
  4. Is what you’re thinking about easily resolved? If your answer is no then it might be better to give your poor brain a break and just breathe for a moment. Think about it when you feel refreshed so that it is easier to be practical.
  5. Are you safe? Can you get to a place that feels good with people that care?  It’s important to make sure that where you are is not a toxic even if only for a short while.  Your environment is a huge influence on how you feel. Make sure that you are happy and safe.
  6. Are you dwelling on something in the past? Don’t get caught in a loop. The past is yours to learn from and reflect on. Stay in the present to maximize the enjoyment of your life right now.  Whatever so and so did is in the past and how you react is on you. Don’t perpetuate negativity. Just move forward and don’t engage. You’ll sleep better and eventually you’ll get really good at picking your battles. Life gets more peaceful and you find yourself smiling more.  You will become a stronger, better version of yourself.  This is only something growth can spark.  Most growth is uncomfortable and it will probably hurt at first. Change doesn’t always feel great at first but it’s a great indicator of what direction you should go next.  Whatever you think about most is what you will become. So be great!
  7. Is somebody bothering you? Or are you bothering yourself around this person? Don’t expect others to change so that you are happy. Changing your own thoughts and beliefs are more productive. After all, acceptance is the first step to finding a solution.  I know people are going to get under your skin. Train yourself not to think about people or things that you aren’t fond of. Soon those things will become less of a trigger and more of a temporary distraction. There have been times where I have forgotten the names of some of the people that once bugged me because that’s how often I think about them.   You will get better at spotting who to stay away from and who you flourish around. It’s important to feel good so be sure to spend less time thinking about people and things you aren’t gaining anything positive from.  You will realize that you are far too  busy being productive and enjoying your life to allow anyone you don’t care for to own any real estate in your thoughts.
  8. EXPECTATIONS. This is an important one. Don’t assume or expect others to react the same way to things as you do. Don’t get your heart set on a single outcome. Be flexible. It’s so much easier to roll with the punches that way. It’s also a perfect recipe for adventure. Step out of your comfort zone and see what else is out there.
  9. Do you have a pet? Find a friend with a pet and go there asap.  Cuddling with with a critter is a great way to feel good!  Any time spent with a living creature reminds your senses that they are alive and well.  Allergic? YouTube baby goats and finger monkeys immediately.
  10. Bake some cookies. It makes your house smell good and your mouth/tummy feel nice.  Okay this one is what works for me a lot. I will make food and then take pictures of it.  Or I will spray paint food and take pictures of it.  Remember when you were a little kid and you would get lost in your imagination?  Do that. More of that.  There is no right or wrong way to use your imagination.  Let your mind wander and get away from the bad thoughts.  Go on a mental trip to your safe place.  Mine is on the beach in Hawaii.

If you are not okay and feel like things are really too awful to bear. Send me a message.  I am here for you.  Please don’t isolate if you are hurting.  There are people that want to listen and help.  Hang in there.

If you need to talk to someone right now here are some resources that I have either used myself or come highly recommended by people that have benefited from these services in a positive way.




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9 thoughts on “10 Things To Think About When You’re Not Okay

  1. So, I also have PTSD and anxiety. Some days it’s difficult to get yourself out of the past and into present time (as you know) Marijuana helps my mind stop racing before bed, and stops my flashbacks. The internet is a wonderful place, filled with people who wouldn’t normally engage with others because of anxiety issues. This is the place for those who feel alone to finally find a community to belong in.

    I was only ten years old, looking after my 9 year old brother and caring for my mom when her MS would flare. My father was an alcoholic and so bipolar he was not able to raise kids. He was abusive, and to this day has not seeked the help he needs. I grew up fast and have experienced a lot of things that no child should. My own MS diagnosis years later is now a huge trigger for me when I have issues with it. All I see is my mother so I remind myself daily that I am my own person. You are your own person too, worthy of love. All of you.

    If anyone reading this has issues with alcohol or addiction, there is help out there and ways to overcome it.

    To the you (reader of this) that is currently struggling

    It gets better.

    1. Thank you for sharing and opening up to me and other readers. Sounds like you haven’t had it easy. My Father has also struggled with addiction leaving him with PTSD and a number of other illnesses. It’s not easy but it does get better especially when we stick together. Big ol’ hugs

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